What turns women on?

There is a difference between physical turn ons and psychological turn ons.

 Physical turn ons is for sex. Psychological turns ons is for long term relationships.

A females physical turn ons are

1. To be desired
Women like to be pursued, not because they are difficult, but because it turns them on. When they feel beautiful and attractive, they get turned on.

So, as a man, you must approach, take lead and display confidence as this makes her feel beautiful and turns her on.

2. An adventure
Women enjoy a variety of emotions as it is adventure for her. Life is boring. If she wants a boring person, she can just be home alone. She is with you because she wants an adventure.

So, as a man, display higher energy than her. Add value to her life and tell exciting stories about you and your current busy lifestyle. She will than want to get to know you better.

3. Security
In spite of wanting an adventure, she does not want to be in pain, if the adventure fails. An adventure always involves risk. She wants to feel safe that in the end, she will be okay. 

So, as a man, display intelligence, wisdom, success and happiness in your conversations, appearance and lifestyle.

Female's psychological turn ons are

1. Dependability and reliability
For a long term relationship, she will look for someone who has wealth, success, and health.

2. Physical Turn Ons
If you cannot turn her on physically, she would not want you for a long term relationship.

3. Commitment
Trust, responsibility and loyalty to a relationship is vital to ensure she can have children with you.

Social Status

There is an unspoken factor in judging life's success. When people think of success, they think of financial success, physical well-being or even relationships. But rarely do people talk about or try to achieve Social Status. Relationships may appear similar, but relationships is more about close friends by being yourself. What I am referring to is the skills of networking and having an abundance of people that you can connect with. So if you have an abundance of friends, then your Social Status is high. If you have a few friends, than your Social Status is low.

So we can categorize social interaction into 4 types in order of increasing difficulty to achieve.

#1. Strangers - People you have not met or people you do not want to meet.

#2. Acquaintances - People that do not share similar interest or you cannot engage in social activities with.

#3. Close Friends - you are yourself and you reveal your vulnerabilities. You can hang out with them on a personal level without being a group setting. You cannot label them as a close friend, if they do not reveal their vulnerabilities to you. You cannot be a close friend, if you do not reveal your vulnerabilities to them. Life is risk....

#4. Friends - People you hang out with outside of work in a group setting. You would not socialize with them alone on a one-to-one environment.

Notice I did not put in family. Sometimes, people do not chose their family and some families are just terrible. So with each family member, you may chose to label each member in one of the 4 categories.

Another thing to note is that I have #3 as Close Friends and #4 as Friends. That is because it is easier to have a few close friends than to have a lot of distant friends. #3 takes being yourself. #4 takes skill.

Ideally, your goal should be to have lots in #4 and #3. To achieve this, be friendly to everyone you meet and add social value to everyone you meet. Start with the attitude everyone you see wants to be your friend.

On a side note, men and even women, may look down on a man that cannot pick up. This judgement is actually a catch 22. When a man cannot pick up, he loses Social Value. When a man loses Social Value, it is harder to find him attractive.

So what is one to do? My answer is, it is easier to pick up on your own and then to pick up with buddies. I get into the detail in other articles.

What a Tool cannot do

A Tool cannot

1. Lead:
Tools are followers. They are followers because they do not want to make a decision. Perhaps, it is because they want to give to other people's wants or perhaps they do not have a clue what they want.

2. Have their own opinion:
Tools do not have their own opinion. It is what makes them boring and they do not even realize it. They fear by having an opinion, they will judged and criticize. Instead, Tools will often just agree with you, thinking you will like them because of that. 

3. Take Risk:
Tools cannot take risk. They do not want to fail. They think by being a follower, they do not have to fail and put all the weight on you. It is not wonder people abuse Tools without feeling remorse or compassion. Tools compensate this by instead, offering resources like money, time and being used.

Tools have no personality, character or human connection. Although there are advantages of being a follower, not having an opinion and not taking risk and there are times to do so, these characteristics do not contribute to a relationship. It why Tools are frequently used and abused and lack compassion for.