Your checklist

Below is a list of items you should know to prepare yourself.

  1. You are well groomed. Your nails are cut. You don't have bad breath. You wear clean iron clothes that are not ripped. As well, you also look unique such as you also wear a necklace or watch for decoration and styling. That is, you have a sense of style that gets you noticed without appearing desperate.
  2. You smile. You are friendly and open to give a bit. Giving a bit does not mean money, but value. You are ready to contribute, offer insight and present who you are.
  3. You have conversation ideas. "What do you do for living?", "Are you in school or working?", "Should I dye my hair blond?", "Who is the bad girl?", "Let's take a photo?", "Want to dance"
  4. You can hold a conversation. To do so, you must be well rounded. You have lots of hobbies like travelling, languages, current events, news, technology, fashion, photography. You have ideas. In your conversation, don't say "I don't know."
  5. You can demonstrate high value and success. Just like men are interested in attractive women. Women are interested in alpha-males. You need to demonstrate adventure, success, knowledge, excitement.  That is, you can stimulate her emotionally. She needs to believe you have potential and she needs feel excitement. This is not meant to be a show off. As show off is a sign of low-esteem. A truly confident man would be able to provide insight, take risk and accept failure and still feel great!
  6. You can lead and bounce. You have innovative ideas and things you can do with her. Take her from one place to another. Ask her to hold your jacket. Ask her to scratch your back. If she complies, it is an indicator of interest. This vested action also builds interest.
  7. You have a variety of things to do. Don't be a hermit. A busy man with variety of things to do is an interesting man. A hermit is a boring man.
  8. You have places you like to go and approach. You can approach bars, outdoor, clubs, coffee shops, social events, Latin dance clubs. Where ever it is, the key is that it must be social and you must like it. If you are finding you are not successful, experiment with another venue and different hobby.
  9. You can touch. Yes, touch is a sign of sexual interest. That is your intent. You are not there to be her friend. So touch her to prevent her from putting you in the friend zone. If she rejects your advances. Try again, but not as strong. If she walks away or ask you to leave, aim for someone else. You are not there to be her friend. Do not compromise. You have better chances of leading a stranger into an intimate relationship than a friend. A stranger is mysterious with unknown expectation. A friend is familiar with preset expectations like perhaps, no touching.
  10. Crash hard! Beta males give half hugs fearing she gets offended. This half hug is awkward and puts her in the driver's seat. You are the decision maker and you decide what kind of hug and touch you want. So give the full hug and crash hard! If she gets offended, be surprise by her lack unfriendly attitude. If you are going to go for it, go for it with absolute confidence. If are you going to crash, then crash hard! Any other way is an indicator of weakness and low-value. If you crash, you can justify that she does not know.

My advice for high school students

If you are the student who is seeing your friends or peers dating and you are still not. Below is my list of recommendations:

  1. So my suggestion is after enough frustration, switch schools. Go to a school that supports your ambitions. If you are an academic in an athletic based school, you are bound to have a tough time and poor environment to support you. So if you are an academic, go to an academic school. If you are athletic focus, go to an athletic school.
  2. Second, don't make school the center of your universe. School is only one small aspect or at least, it should be. Have outside activity that is not associated to the school. This addition allows you to see other environments.
  3. Third, don't aim to pick up in school. That is right. Because you go to the same school every day for four years. It would be embarrassing to have to see her everyday, if you get rejected.
  4. Fourth, be invisible. That is, don't try to stand out and get notice in school. Strange I would say that, but that is true. Once again, you have to go to the same school for four years. If you get noticed and people focus on you, there will also be those who will criticize you. You only want those who you want to be friends with to notice you. Anybody else is a waste of time and easy access for vulnerable attacks. This does not mean you shouldn't make friends. This just means you shouldn't get notice by everyone especially students you do not know.
  5. Don't show off. Showing off is violating rule number 4, be invisible. But I feel I have to give this one special attention as there seems be a tendency for students to show off. There may be those who respect your achievements, but there will also be those who are envy of it. Just like adults do not show off by revealing their salary, it is not nice to show off by revealing your marks or achievements. Revealing such personal information can make other envious and make you vulnerable for attacks. 
  6. Sixth, subscribe! I know how to make you successful.

Why not be her therapist?

Whatever emotion she has, it is not because it is a problem. It is because she wants it to be that way.

In general, applying to all genders, if you are angry, it is because you to be angry. If you are happy, it is because you want to be happy.

How does this help? 

First, there is no need to solve her emotions because you are taking away something she wants.

So rather than trying to help solve her emotions, simply accept and acknowledge that she is the type and these emotions benefit her in some way.

Knowing that about her, go along with it and see how you can make it work.

Furthermore, if she is telling you all her problems like the guy she likes or that she is depress, it is an indicator of disinterest. She does not care what you think of her and she is looking for a therapist to listen to her, but once she feels better, she will look for somebody who doesn't know about her problems. She is much too embarrassed to be with a stranger that knows her dark side.

Your strategy should be to lead the topic into something you like to talk about.