1. Your objective is to turn her on.
You are her lover, not her provider. From the moment you see her to the last minute of intimacy, your one and only objective is to turn her on.
2. To turn her on, you must give stimulus.
You want to be her drug, not her therapist. Do not try to correct her or make her a better person. If she is complaining or telling you her problems, then it is an indicator of disinterest. Try to change the topic and move towards stimulating conversations.
To gain this skill of offering stimulus, you must live an active, busy, balanced life. If you live a boring life, you will not have any stories to tell or adventures to talk about. You should have an interest in the way you dress, talk, touch and smell. By living an active, busy lifestyle, it makes you look scarcely available and a rare opportunity. If you are always available, then why would she need to decide now. She can always decide later because you are always available.
You must also be in a friendly, fun, care free state of mind. If you approach unwillingly, then she will notice and the conversation becomes awkward and painful. This care free state of mind also improves creativity allowing you to come up with more ideas to talk about.
Framework wise, your job is to invite her into your world. not enter hers. So asking her what she likes and looking for ways to give that to her is entering her world. Show her all the wonderful experiences in your world is inviting her into your world.
3. Look for indicators of interest
Indicators of interest include intimate allowances or willingness to follow your lead. If you can no longer stimulate her and she is not showing any indicator of interest, then it is time to move on. The next time you see her, you can always try again. By moving on, it shows you are not some desperate chump with nothing better to do.
4. Bounce her
Once you get the indicator of interest, one thing you must do is transition her to a different environment. This transition changes the relationship from acquaintances to relationship. That she is no longer just interacting with you out of convenience, but is going out of her way to spend time with you.
Overall, this is not just pickup guide, but a guide to improving your social skills. What you'll find is that this is not an overnight change. That is, it is not the one word you are missing or the one belief you are missing or the one secret trick you are missing. It is a lifestyle, environment and an attitude change and that takes time. Once you fine tune your lifestyle, environment and attitude, everything will fall into place and you will find people are naturally attracted to you.