You cannot be bored

If you find yourself getting bored, especially when you are interacting, you need to offer a new idea. Change topics, lead her different spot. Getting bored is an opportunity killer. She will know and wonder why you keep interacting even if you are bored. She will then conclude you are desperate and cannot lead the interaction to more fun ideas.

She is not the prize. Do not be happy just helping her. She will know and that that is a turn off for her. You are there to lead and offer fun to anyone that follows. You can have fun with or without her.

Don't be pretend to have fun when you are really bored. Once again, she will know. Pretending to have fun is also a sign of desperation. You need to lead and find things you like do and talk about.

Having fun and enjoying your time with or without her is a turn on. She will get curious as to what you doing.

If you can only have fun when she is around, then you have become needy and approval seeking.


Your job as a lover...

Remember, you are NOT there to be her provider. That comes only after you know her and like her on a deeper level.

You are there to be her lover. To be her lover means your job is to turn her on. 

If you go too fast, she will think you are disgusting call you a jerk or a pervert.

If you go too slow, she will get impatient and lose interest. She will then label you as a nice guy or good friend.

From the time you meet her as strangers, to the time she get turned on, every move you make is for this purpose. If she smiles and feel comfortable with you, you are one step closer. 

If the interaction stalls, it will be hard to get it moving forward. You need to always be moving forward or backward. Do not allow the relationship to stay still for too long.

Similarly, for female to attract male, she doesn't focus on being a good wife, great cook and nurturing mother. She shows skin. She shows sexual features that turns a man on. 

There is no other way. 

It is not about Persuasion

1. Don't think Persuasion. Thinking persuasion causes you to look for why and reasons for your targets. It causes you to behave logically. Instead, think stimulus. How can you stimulate emotions and create a unique experience during your interaction?

2. You cannot stimulate everyone. There will be a small percentage who will shut themselves off from being stimulated by you. For whatever reason, let it be her mood or the fact that she does not like the way you look, she may close off a receptive attitude. 

3. Your best successes are those who are most receptive to stimulus.

4. One of your objective is to be in environment where they are open and receptive to your presence and allow you the opportunity to stimulate.

5. You should also present and dress yourself in such a way that allows others to perceive you as interesting and stir her curiosity.

6. To think stimulus is to think fun. Have fun. If you are not having fun, then why are you here...