Qualify her

An attractive women needs to offer more than just her looks to be with you.

If she knows her looks is all you want, she will conclude you are just using her and only want to sleep with her.

If she has to work and pay attention to you, in order for you to be attracted to her, she will feel better about herself and feel you are more of a high-valued, selective, alpha male.

What to say

1. Don't focus on what to say, focus on how you feel. How you feel will tell you what you want to say.

2. Don't focus on finding interesting things to say. Do focus on having a wide variety of things to say. The purpose of the conversation isn't to enjoy the topic, it is to enjoy the togetherness. If you have things to say that really interest her, she will be more interested in the topic than you -- no different than buying her a drink.

3. What you say will be forgotten. No one really cares.

4. The best thing to talk about is really non-sense things where she can evaluate and judge. That's right, non-sense. Such as 

"Should I dye my hair blond?"

"How about a picture of you and me?"

"So should get my ears pierce?

These topics are non-sense because you already know the answer. They really serve no productivity purpose, but they serve a purpose for her. 

Why are non-sense the best topic? Because on a conscious level, non-sense serve as a distraction. You are distracting her while the whole purpose is really to communicate to her on a subconscious level, to create emotions, togetherness and turn strangers into friends.

5. Keep the topics lighthearted and simple. If she want to learn the complexities of physics, she'd just read a book. She wants to relax and enjoy. 


Contradictions and Misconceptions

1. Familiar, but Mysterious

2. Busy, but Available

3. Successful, but Vulnerable

4. Sexually interest, but a Gentlemen

5. Aggressive, but sensitive

6. Wanted, but not used.

7. Unapologetic, not permission seeking, but not destructive or negative.

8. Takes initiative, but not desperate.

9. She won't remember what you said, but she will remember how you made her feel. 

10. Be her addictive drug, not her therapist.

11. Confident, but not arrogant.