Approach with this Attitude

1. The purpose of you approaching is to enjoy the interaction. It is not to date her. She still has to qualify herself to you.

2. Be willing to walk away. If she is rude to you, you need to be willing to walk away. Her, being rude, could just be a test. She needs to know she can lose you if she does not act appropriately.

3. Be happy and positive. If you approach out of fear and discomfort, she will know. Her guard will be up and she will want to leave.

4. Don't be nice, but do be polite. She is still a stranger. You are still a stranger to her. There is no reason for you to be too nice unless if you have ulterior motives.

5. Have a fun conversation. Without pleasure, there is no reason to be talking to a stranger at all.

6. Don't ask really personal questions. Don't ask too many questions. Do reveal yourself so she can feel more comfortable talking to you. Strangers are reluctant to reveal personal details because it makes her vulnerable.

7. Don't be so serious. Don't have serious topics. The purpose is to focus on the togetherness of the interaction. A serious topic will cause her to focus on the topic and not you. Light conversation like hobbies, scenery, game play, role play and jokes works much better.

8. Don't take it seriously or personally. Once the interaction is gone, you will never see her again. She will forget you ever existed and will not even remember what the conversation is about.

9. Be higher energy. If she matches your energy, it means you just got her more excited and that is a turn on. If you are lower energy, and she matches that, she will be more depress and that is a turn off. More importantly, be higher energy than the conversation topic. If the topic is good, say it is great. If the joke is only a bit funny, laugh like it was funnier. This higher energy puts the focus on you rather than the topic.

10. Take two steps forward one step back. By taking two steps forward, you put her at place of discomfort because you are too close. Take one step back, release the discomfort and then start the cycle over again. Touch, if you can. The back of the elbow and the shoulder are safe places. 

You are the stimulus, not the topic

I have said this before, indirectly and I am saying it now, directly. A chump strategy is to look for interesting topics to talk about hoping to excite her. 


If the topic is more interesting than the man, than it is no different than buying her a drink. She will be more interested in the topic than the man.


Your job, is to make sure the focus is on you. You are the stimulus, not the topic. So if the topic is interesting, you need to be higher energy to be even more interesting than the topic.


Don't worry about what to talk about. She will forget. 


Do focus on the interaction and how you present yourself as an Alpha male. She will remember.

The approaching mindset

Too many times, men approach with the mindset to get her number or to sleep with her. This mindset stiffens creativity and prevents the man from coming up with new ideas. 

Imagine if a man approaches another man with the intent to get his number and become best friends. That would simply be creepy. 

Instead, the mindset you should take on is to play. That's it. The purpose for you to approach is to play, flirt, enjoy the interaction and togetherness of another person.

Going with this mindset, you may not want her number if she does not qualify. She does not qualify if she does not play along or respond in a positive manner.

As well, because you are just playing, it is okay to smile, don't be so serious and it is okay to say silly things like "Should I get a tattoo?"

So next time, you see a stranger, don't keep your distance because strangers don't like to talk to strangers. Don't worry what the stranger thinks of you. Better to have her think of you than not know you even exist. If she thinks your friendly attitude is wrong, then maybe she is uptight. Everybody starts off as strangers. Uptight people will never get to know anybody.