This is NOT about Manipulation!

If you believe you need to manipulate her to be attracted to you, then you must have very low self-esteem!

In fact, I am willing to bet you that if your plan is to be somebody you are not, then you have not been successful in picking up.

What these articles is about is, first, to be and most importantly, accept and embrace yourself.

Then, to get excited about who you are and what you have to offer. This higher energy allows others to be proud to be around you. If you like who you are, that should be easy.

It is also about discovering your social skill errors and correcting them.

It is NOT about changing who you are from the core.

I am not teaching you to manipulate others because there really is no way. I am teaching my understanding of how the game is played and what the rules are.

She has no control of her desires. It is already pre-programmed in her genes. You have no control of your desires. It is already pre-programmed in your genes. Do not blame her for her desire of choice. You cannot blame yourself for your desire of choice. 

It is a matter of understanding her desires and being able to fulfill them. What you will discover is that it is easiest fulfill when you are being yourself and improving your social skills. If she still does not like you, then so be it. You cannot attract everyone. You should, however, be able to attract a lot just by being yourself. Any other strategy is a recipe for failure.

You may argue what happens if being yourself means being an egotistical, self-centered, sadistic bastard? Would such a person be able to pick up? Even Charles Manson, a 5'4 serial killer gets fan mail and plenty of girls wanting to marry him in prison. I would, however, suggest you focus on your emotions which is probably in a state of anger as oppose to being in a state of joy. You need to be in a positive state of mind and to actually like people when you are approaching. 

To hate people and approach them is also a recipe for rejection.

You do not need to be creative

When approaching, it would be fun if you found something creative to say, but there is no pressure to be creative. Simple questions work such as 

  1. Where are you from?
  2. What do you do for a living?
  3. How are you?
  4. How long long have to lived here?
The key is to display higher energy and enthusiasm when asking it. You must look like you want to be there, you want to talk to her and you have things to talk about.

Questions that don't work include

  1. What is the meaning of life?
  2. What do you do for fun?
  3. What are your hobbies?
  4. What do you think of me?
These questions are too complicated. Unless if you and her have an interest in the meaning of life, it is just too much energy to think about. The last three questions are approval seeking. Don't ask her questions about her just to figure her out. She doesn't know you that well to reveal herself to you.

Also, don't ask too many questions. Question are value-takers. Start talking, tell stories, offer insight, ideas, and opinions. Although you don't need to be creative, you do need to be stimulating.

Don't be approval seeking

When you see someone else that is taller, better-looking and richer, do you think to yourself why should she be with you when she can be with him?

(If you are thinking like that, than you are also attracting people who are also like that. Then, these people will never be attracted to you.)

Everyone has different meaning of success. One person's success means driving a fancy car and living in a luxurious mansion. There will certainly be plenty of targets interested in such a man. On the hand, another person's success means traveling around the world, not having to worry about maintaining cars and expensive houses. Once again, there will certainly be plenty of targets interested in this adventurous lifestyle as well. Both these people are successful in their own right. They may not necessarily attract the same type, but they will attract plenty because they are following their passion, not approval seeking and comparing themselves to other people's achievements. 

If you believe there is someone better than you (or worse than you) for whatever reason, than you will end up being approval seeking. 

Don't compare. Don't compete. Don't seek her approval. She needs a man who can lead and knows what he wants in life. Be the man who can live your passion.