1. If you want to be funny, you have to be able to lie. Being silly, exaggerating requires you to be imaginative that is beyond reality, beyond the truth.
2. You are not obligated to reveal your personal life story.
3. If you want to be friendly, you need to be able to lie. Sometimes, people just want an agreement. Sometimes, people just want your support. So if you are honest and you disagree with them, you could infuriate them.
4. Don't take conversation with strangers so seriously. Being serious ruins the light and friendly mood. They are strangers and your job is to just be friendly. So look for ways to be friendly, not ways to be honest and serious.
5. It takes intelligence to be able to understand a joke. Being serious and honest is boring. Recognizing when someone is joking is fun.
6. To build rapport and be in sync with someone, you must be in agreement with them. So just open up your mind and accepting their style, you have to find a way to believe in them for that moment (even if you don't).
There are of course many IOD (Indicators of Disinterest), but I am referring to ones that men confuse them as IOI (Indicators of Interest)
She ask you to buy her stuff.
Many men fall for this. This ask appears to be an enticing offer. The man believes if he buys her stuff, she will be happy and will want to be with him. The reality is she is only testing to see how much she can get away with and how much stuff she can get from him. Once he stops buying, she looks elsewhere.
If you just met her, there is no reason to buy her stuff. In fact, it is down right rude of her to ask. Females who are sincere and interested will not ask. Your solution can be to counter offer with a "What are you going to do for me in return?" type challenge.
- She complains if you do not do what she says.
Once again, similar to #1, the man believes by complying her demands, he has made her happy and she will want to be with him. The reality is, if she is complaining, then she already does not have any interest in him.
Your solution is to determine if the complaint is justified. If it is not, do not comply! Set her straight. Command her to "Behave"
She talks to you about all her problems.
She is looking for a therapist. One that will listen to her. Any chump that is willing to listen and support her, she will offer her time.
Once when she no longer needs a therapist and is looking for fun, she will find someone else who does not know her embarrassing past.
When you just meet her, she does not act happy or try to be happy.
Showing a positive attitude is an indicator she cares about what you think of her.
Female that show any interest in you will want to make sure she is at least pretending to be happy to meet you.
She does not care how she treats you.
She will ask you to buy her drinks. She will ask you to buy stuff even if she does not want it. She does not care that you are wasting money. After all, it is not her money. You can call these females gold diggers. She does not care if you walk away. She does not care to lose you.
If you stay, you will lose all your money.
She leads the interaction.
She only cares about her wants. She does not care about your wants. So she leads the conversation. She talks about what she wants to talk about. She leads date. She wants you to drive her to places she wants to go. She calls you only to drive her home.
Now, there is actually a lot of men that fall for this type of female. Men have a misconception that to get her to like you, you are suppose to give her what she wants and ignore your own wants. The reality is, if she likes you, she will be interested in doing what you want. At least, be willing to negotiate the activities. If she likes you, what she wants is to spend time with you and it does not matter where you take her. So do things that you both enjoy, not just put up with her self-centered desires.
- She does not offer any intimacy.
She does not want you to touch her. She does not want you to kiss her. She does not want you to put your arms around her. In general, females want intimacy. If she is spending time with you and not offering intimacy, then she is after something else. Maybe just companionship and put up with her spoiled ways.
If you ever run into these types of females, my suggestion is to simply walk away. She has an agenda and she is only interested in suckers to fill this role.
The lesson learned here is not only to avoid these targets, but you should question your own behavior and attitude to see if you are attracting them. That is, if you do not lead, you can only attract females who lead. If you do not know what you want other than a hot girl, then you can only attract a hot girl who knows what she wants and she will mistreat you.
That is why it is important to be a Alpha-Male. Otherwise, you can only attract Alpha-Females that will mistreat you.
1. Trying to come up with something to say. The act of trying is an indicator of effort. Your approach needs to seem effortless and natural. Your goal is to have many ideas up your sleeves that you should have choices in what you can say.
2. Thinking about interesting things to say. When you think, you have to pause. This freeze in time makes her realize you are searching for interesting things to say. Meaning you are "planning" to impress her rather than being yourself and having her feel comfortable talking to someone genuine. Instead, you should just say whatever that is on your mind. To do that, you should have a mindset of being emotionally positive, happy and enthusiastic. Enthusiastic people always have something to say.
3. Initiating partially. If you feel strange or awkward approaching her, then she is going to feel uncomfortable being approached by you. Even if she is perfectly comfortable being approached, but being approached from a man who does not want to approach, will make her feel she needs to lead rather than follow. That is, as stated before, crash hard. Whether you are approaching, hugging, smiling, do it with confidence and do it fully. The confidence that says it is okay. Half a smile, half a hug, half an approach puts her in the leadership and decision making mode - a mode that says she has to mother you, a turn off mode.
4. Only having one topic to talk about. If you only have one topic to talk about, then the topic becomes her interest, not you. If you have multiple things to talk about, then the interest is on you. It is absolutely vital you talk about many things. Your many hobbies, interest and activities. Try new things.
5. The purpose of approaching is to see if she is worthy of you, not to pick her up. If you go with the mindset that you are approaching to pick her up, then you will feel bad if you get rejected. If you approach to see who is and how she is and whether she is worthy of your time, then you will only pick her up if she qualifies and proves herself to you.
There are, of course, other errors that can occur such as not leading, not bouncing, not showing sexual interest, but I have already talk about this in other articles.