1. Women cannot tell you what makes her feel special.
2. What women tell you is influences by society and the media. She has a self-image to maintain and cannot tell you things that makes her look bad. If she enjoys sex, she cannot tell you that.
3. If she tells you and you act accordingly, then there is no surprise and all is predictable and boring.
4. In the art of seduction, surprises, suspense and mystery keeps the game fun. Where would the surprise be, if you simply do what she tells you to do.