Why commitment slows men down, but not women. Created: 17 April 2012 - Last Updated: 20 February 2016 Administrator Seducing Fundamentals (0) In the dating world, it is the man that approach women and lead the relationship. Women just follow. For a man, to be successful, he needs to take charge and approach women. For women to be successful, she simply needs to appear hot and friendly to get approached. In a committed relationship, men are no longer allowed to approach women because he is committed, but women are still allowed to dress hot and appear approachable. In such a situation, women are still experimenting by getting approached while men lose their skills because he is no longer allowed to approach. Thus, if they break up, it is easier for women to find another man so as long as she keeps herself healthy. For a man, it is much more difficult because he has not experimented with approaching for a long time.