Frustrated men think they have something to offer because they give women freedom. They think by letting women make the decisions, they would be appreciative and reciprocate. And when that does not happen, frustrated men become angry.
Woman don't need a man to give her freedom. She already has freedom.
Women want stimulus. Women want a man that has an idea as to where to take them, how to interact and how to stimulate her emotions.
That is, don't ask her what she likes. Don't ask her what she likes to do for fun. Instead, offer something to do. Offer fun things to do. Offer stimulating things to do.
To do that, a man must be able to go out there and experiment with new activities. See what's fun and see what works. Then, he has the experience and knowledge to offer these activities to others.
That is, take initiative, go alone and experiment. Once you gain the experience and consider the activity stimulating, bring a partner.